As you’ve probably already realized, men and women are different. There’s no getting around it. And on top of that, every woman is different in her own right as well. That’s why some of the best relationship advice for men is about how to make sure the unique needs of the woman you’re with are addressed by the way you treat her. If you’re looking for something fulfilling and meaningful, the key is understanding what the woman in your life really wants. Once you understand that what worked for the last one may not work for the new one, you can create the satisfying relationship you both want.
So what do women really want in a relationship? Well, they want to feel “safe, sexy, and seen” by their partners.
Here are four ways to make her feel that way:
Get to know her.
Like, REALLY know her. Unfortunately, many women have had bad first date experiences with men who want to skip over all the get-know-you steps and go straight to the bedroom. Trust me, we are on high-alert about this. Not only is it wrong to think that every woman wants to sleep with you on the first date, it also tells her that a serious relationship isn’t what you’re after. What you're looking for is a "hook-up."
What women are really looking for during the first several dates is determining if there is a connection with you. Having meaningful conversations about something other than what you want to do to her sexually shows that you’re genuinely interested in who she is as a person rather than just wanting to get between her legs. Show her that you're interested in getting to know her by sharing something about yourself. That will show her that you’re willing to be open with her, which allows her the opportunity to let her guard down and reciprocate. Find out if you have any shared interests and values and don’t forget to be a gentlemen on your date by treating her with respect.
Learn Her Love Language
If you haven't read this book or googled the 5 love languages, it would be in your best interest to do so. Basically, it's learning your partner’s love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
Once you know your partner’s love language, you can then express love to your partner in the way that she is most receptive to it. Sometimes partners have a difficult time feeling loved by one another because the way they express love is different, so understanding this can give you the tools you need to ensure she feels loved by you.
Empathy Is The Way to Her Heart
Women have a desire to be heard and understood. This should really come as no surprise. We want a partner who will listen without judgment and who will create an environment where we feel comfortable being vulnerable. Some of the best relationship advice for men is learning to master the skill of empathy. There are many ways to be empathetic, which include active listening, suspending any judgment or preconceived notions you may have about a given situation and putting yourself in her shoes, and showing positive body language to let her know that you’re engaged in the conversation. The wandering or glassy eyes that show you've kind of zoned out of the conversation is a no-no.
Keep Up The Romance
The last thing you want to have happen with a woman you want to pursue romantically is to fall into the dreaded friend zone. Because once there, it's almost impossible to come back from it. To avoid this, you need to prove that you’re the full package. Not only can she rely on you for emotional intimacy, but for physical intimacy as well. Holding doors, pulling out chairs, leaving her a card that she finds in the morning before leaving for work, telling her she’s beautiful, surprising her with a massage, and planning a date night are all ways to keep that romantic spark going.
Chivalry is not dead and guys need to stop acting like it is. Women love this stuff. Imagine how turned on she will be if you called her in the middle of a random day and told her in very explicit detail, what you were going to do to her when she got home. I promise you, the fire will be burning down below.
Follow these tips and things might just work out after all.
By: Nikki J