I was asked this question the other day, and the more I thought about it, the more I wanted to put my thoughts on paper. Here it is; I don’t believe all men cheat. I do believe that men cheat when they find themselves in discouraging relationships and when the individuals in the relationships are no longer meeting each other’s needs. This is the reason why honest, open and real communication is important and true intimacy (Transparency) is important because what someone needs at the beginning of a relationship may not be the something they need at the middle or even at the highest point of the relationship.
As human beings, we are always growing and changing, so there needs to be adjustments made according to the different levels and stages as we grow ( Sacrifice) within the relationship. I could take it a step further by also saying that giving someone what you think they want versus what they need probably could be one of the worst things you can do in any relationship. And please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying, it’s not any one person’s fault why infidelity happens and why people choose to have affairs. I’m only suggesting that we think about all aspects of human behavior. I could go on and on about this topic but I will close with this key note.
COMMUNICATION: Whether it may be good, bad, pretty or indifferent, you must communicate. Don’t assume what you think each other needs. TALK TO EACH OTHER EVEN IF YOU DON’T LIKE WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS SAYING OR FEELING AT THAT POINT.
1 Peter 3:7 says: “Let a man dwell with his wife according to knowledge.” I believe this applies to any degree of relationships. Get to really know the other person and not the idea of who you want them to be. Study your individual mate so you can then apply the knowledge of who that person is, because often times we fall in love with the idea of someone, not who they really are. And another thing, try to hear what they are really telling you and not what you want to hear. This is the difference between listening and hearing.
Love is a choice; it’s a decision you make each day where you choose to be committed to a person, and be okay with the fact that you’re not always going to “like” each other every single day, but that friendship, mutual respect, and love for each other is what is going to keep you together.